Happiness is a choice. This simple yet profound truth is the foundation of Vex King's transformative book, Good Vibes, Good Life. If you think fulfillment depends on external circumstances, it's time to think again!

King crushes that myth like a grape!     The fact of the matter is this - all the possessions and luxuries can only make you momentarily happy! The path to lasting happiness is paved by self-love - and that is your choice!.

Good Vibes, Good Life by Vex King is a #1 Sunday Times bestselling book on personal development. 

Vex King is a modern-day guru spreading good vibes wherever he goes. With his wise words, this British-Indian sensation is taking the self-help world by storm. You may know King from his inspirational Instagram account or maybe you've seen his popular Bon Vita clothing line. Either way, Vex is a visionary on a mission to uplift humanity. After battling his own demons, King transformed his life using the positive mindset juju he now preaches. Follow King's advice, and get ready for your best life. 

Do you think that your thoughts can actually shape your reality? The proponents of the Law of Attraction claim that's exactly how it works - if you think something good will happen, it most probably will. 

To illustrate this, King shares a fascinating experience from his cash-strapped childhood. Once his friends planned a vacation and invited him along. King could not afford the cost at the time. But, he was still hopeful that something will happen to make the trip possible. Surprisingly, he received a check for the exact amount of money the trip required within the next weeks, as if magically manifested by his mindset. That’s Law of Attraction for you! His example conveys how profoundly our thoughts, beliefs, and expectations can shape the outcomes in our lives. And the same is true if you dwell on negativity. If you always expect the worst, you'll probably end up getting it. 

FYI, the Law of Attraction does not work in all scenarios! For one, it won't work if your optimism is accompanied by negative feelings. Or at least that's what King believes. Often he got confused by the situations when the law failed and he realized that to manifest anything, he had to feel it with every fiber of his being. This led King to get creative and cook up his own formula: the Law of Vibration. The Law of Vibration says that to truly manifest a positive desire you need to actually radiate joyful and positive vibrations. These actually change your reality, and you will attract good things.

Do you think that the Law of Vibration works? Not much space for doubt really, since it has a logical explanation. See, everything in the universe is made of atoms. All atoms vibrate, but at different frequencies. Now, King believes that positive thoughts vibrate at a high frequency and negative thoughts vibrate at a low frequency. And when an atom vibrates, it influences the other atoms around it to sync with its frequency. Following that logic, if your emotions vibrate at a high frequency, your reality will also follow the same high frequency, right?

And that, people, is how you manifest dreams, attract soulmates, and create joy. Not by just thinking happy thoughts, but by actually raising your inner vibration! Next, let us see the technique by which you can take control of your vibrational frequency.

Vibrations are contagious! We draw energy from each other and our environment. How can we use that to our advantage? We spend time with happy and healthy people, take in their energy and heighten our own vibrational frequency! Yay. Plus, it'll help pull more positive people in!

King shares other ways to control your vibrational frequency. Here's hack #2: Let your body language radiate good vibes only. Research indicates that smiling - even if you don't mean it - releases endorphins in the body. Endorphins are our natural mood boosters. So, crack a smile and trick your brain into changing your mood. Another hack? Assuming powerful sitting postures for just 2 minutes spikes confidence-enhancing testosterone by 20%. Easy peasy! Hack #4: go hermit! Totally quit socializing. It is absolutely healthy to cut off the so-called urgencies of modern life.

Did someone say spending some alone time with Mother Nature? Good one! Cause that is Vex's hack #5. Go for a pleasant evening walk in the nearby park or plan a hike to the nearest trail, with lots of sunshine. Sunshine, btw, boosts mood with serotonin AND gives you doses of vitamin D. What more do you want?

Now, the next important consideration for a positive transformation in life is staying away from toxic people.

Most of us can recognize the negative people in our lives. You feel a sudden change in environment and even in your mood when they arrive. They leave you drained and exhausted. Relatable?  Most of us are sensitive to our environment and pick on negative vibes as much as positive vibes, even if subconsciously. And that’s a problem! Their low energy brings you down, too.

And, please! Don't try to logic your way out of this. "I should be able to not let this affect me!" Yeah, in theory, but down here on earth we're sensitive creatures, for better or worse! Most of us do not have the emotional security to shrug it off. So do yourself a favour and learn to recognize these toxic people and stay away from them!!  Nothing to feel guilty or weak about. After all, this will impact your mental well-being. And of those around you - your low, hateful vibrating frequency will spread like contagion. Don’t you think it’s more selfish to not protect them?

Real talk, now. You need to acknowledge the toxic aspects of your own behaviour. You are not perfect, and that's okay! We've all spread toxicity at times, even without meaning to. When someone says we hurt them, it's tempting to defend like "It wasn't that bad!" We blame them for "overreacting" to avoid taking responsibility. But you don't get to decide how they should feel! And what makes you think they aren’t going through their own messes? If you hurt someone, even unintentionally, just acknowledge it without making excuses. Owning your impact feels tough but it says that you just won’t accept toxicity, coming from yourself or others. Next time, just hear them out, apologise, learn, and grow. Cool?

Now, tell us: what's your favourite thing about yourself? If you don't have a ready answer, you need a lesson in self-love. So, next, let us find out how self-love is important and how to cultivate it.

When he was just 16, Richard Branson didn't let dyslexia or age stop him from launching his first business - a magazine. Anybody else, and they’d have been like "I don't have the skills or experience to do this." But Branson didn't listen to that voice of doubt. He didn't wait until he felt fully qualified or the timing seemed perfect. Despite the challenges, he took action on his dream anyway. And it paid off big time - since then, Branson has started over 400 wildly successful companies.

Now, if you want to succeed like Branson, be prepared to get uncomfortable. Rise and grind before the sun's up. Making dreams your reality requires hustle - not comfort. You want it bad enough? Then want it more than you want to relax. More than you want to take it easy. Listen, manifesting takes more than just affirmations - it takes dedication. You gotta be willing to grind, even when motivation lags. And don't wait for perfect conditions or until you feel ready. That day may never come.  So many out there want success but struggle with the doing. They'd rather chill than put in the blood, sweat and tears. They make excuses - "Not enough time, money or skills yet." That's quitter talk. No more excuses - it's time to get gritty. The real difference between success and failure? Grit. Successful people keep pushing even when everything tells them they can't do it. They grit their teeth, dig deep, and put in the work no matter what. They don't make excuses - they make progress. Eyes fixed on the prize. Always. It ain't always fun or inspirational. But inch by inch, it adds up.

Your ambitious plans and ideas won’t translate into much on the ground unless you leap into action. Feeling unmotivated? No problemo! Bring out the big guns - dopamine! Our brain's built to reward progress. Achieve something small, get a hit of dopamine. Addicting stuff! So break up that big goal into mini-missions. Crush a tiny task, collect some dopamine. Let the chemical reward momentum carry you through. Before you know it, you'll be running full speed towards your dreams.

Success also hangs on how gracefully we handle what we can't control. More on it in the next segment!

It's time to take all that we have learned, and apply it to the curveballs of fate! Yeah, we're talking about when painful stuff happens, as it always does. No matter how much grit and effort you put toward your goals, painful experiences will inevitably happen. You can choose your actions, but not external events. When adversity strikes, you have a decision: will you play the victim, or take control of your response?

See, your viewpoint affects your vibe and reality. Remember the Law of Attraction and Law of Vibration? If you persist in seeing yourself as a victim when bad stuff happens, you'll emit low-frequency energy and attract more of the same low-vibe knocks. Basically, life will throw you around like its plaything. But! If you use pain as a catalyst for growth instead of moping, you'll start buzzing at a higher frequency. And you can expect more good flows to start rushing your way. So far, so good?

Plus, you can view trials as the ultimate growth accelerator! So here's some reframe fuel when adversity strikes: tell yourself "This is teaching me something that I will need in the future" When you reframe pain as an ally, you also practice radical self-love.

Part of deeply accepting yourself is embracing all that shaped you—the good and the bad! All of it together, made you you! Many sages have said, there is a reason behind everything. At first, major losses and traumas may appear purely tragic. But give it time. You'll understand how all those wild twists and turns fueled your growth. Even the intensely painful stuff often has an upside. Those events end up motivating you toward purpose. For example, take our author here. When he was just a tiny boy, his dad passed away. He subsequently grew up broke, even briefly homeless. Rough! Now zoom ahead. Adult King can see how those early tragedies fueled his compassion and drive to help others like him. Had he avoided those formative pains, the motivation to impact lives might never have sparked.

So next time an emotional storm hits, remember: the path to becoming your best self often winds through difficulty.